Hyo Jin Moon February 11, 1989 True Parents' Birthday World Mission Center
Today is a day of recommitting myself to the vows that I made to the True Parents. When you have a child of your own, every interaction with that child is precious and immeasurable. Every moment with your child is always fresh and of such overwhelming intensity. For us to truly rejoice on this day, we must come before True Parents as their true children. We must be grateful for that bonding relationship and the experience of true love that transcends anything man has created. We must understand that the realization of True Parents depends on our ability to become their true children, and that without having True Parents, we can never be true children. As children of these same Parents, we must have a sense of absolute unity. That is the essence of the ideal family.
How many of you come from small towns? Which do you like better: the city or the small town? Many people come to the city because they feel that there's more opportunity to find a better job or to meet people. Basically they leave their small town because they're not satisfied with its lifestyle and social structure. By moving to the big city, they find a multiplicity of social patterns and ethnic backgrounds, providing them with a better chance of choosing the kind of social structure or group they desire.
Why did you come? Most of you who came from small towns obviously liked an atmosphere of more family-oriented closeness than the big city offers. The reason you are in the Unification Church is that you like our kind of lifestyle. It's very important for you to share yourself with others. But many people who leave small towns are confused about their focus in life. Their value does not lie in those kinds of loving relationships, but somewhere else.
The diverse opportunities that exist in large cities make it so difficult to unite people. This kind of pluralistic social structure causes the existence of pluralistic values and ideologies. People belonging to such a society feel they are free to do whatever they want. But people tend to abuse this kind of freedom, creating an absence of the criterion of right and wrong. Only if there are people willing to commit themselves to a purpose greater than themselves can unity occur. If such a purpose becomes an underlying standard, a family spirit will be created.
Are You Living for Others?
What is a true relationship? Often within a relationship when something goes wrong, I hear people say, "You don't love me, but only your concept of what I should become. You're not embracing the kind of Mate qualities I possess." When you stress only your own point of view, you tend to be confronted with such a feeling. If you live only to satisfy your own personal interests, it is very difficult to have true relationships. We cannot avoid living with other people. How can you simply disregard the fact that there are millions of people in this world and put total emphasis on your existence? Such people could only have hypocritical relationships. They would only pretend to care about others -- knowing that their only real concern is their own self-interest. That's exactly what this world is -- a pretentious society! We say that we care for humanity but our daily lives have nothing to do with living for that purpose. Often, we're only trying to make ends meet for ourselves.
Let's say you are walking on a tightrope and you are scared because it's really life-threatening: "If I fall down, I'll die!" You fear it, because you know this is not where you belong. Men are not made to walk on a tightrope, but to walk on the ground. As a fallen man, you desire to go back to the original because that's where you feel safe, that's where you belong. But sometimes only when you are in a life threatening situation, do you really wish for the original world.
As members of the Unification Church, what is our one unifying theme? We want the kind of world where there is no evil, where there is peace, love, and trust; a world where we can go anywhere without fear of losing our life. We want a world where we can look at everybody and believe everyone loves and cares for us as much as we love and care for them.
A True Family System
If you have loving parents and a loving family, you know wherever you go, that you are not alone. Someone loves and cares for you, needs and appreciates you. If you have that kind of security, you feel safe wherever you go. In order to establish such an atmosphere everywhere you go, you need to feel that kind of security within a family and within a social system that has such an underlying value.
Love can embrace this universe. When we become totally enraptured in love, we see everything with eyes of love. All of our senses will be focused with that intense power of love. When you live in love you see the unique traits of everything and find them beautiful. You must have give and take with the kind of love that created this universe. When you understand the principle of love, everything you see is actually your partner of love. Through this awareness you start appreciating the value of things which exist around you.
How many of you are married? Give and take makes you happy within that relationship. Who initiates, the husband or wife? When you come home at night, and you say, "Oh, you look wonderful tonight, even more than yesterday," then the other responds and you get closer and closer. You can substantiate whatever you want. If you expect to live in a world where there is love, you must initiate it. A world abounding in love starts from you and it starts from me.
What if everybody were to say "Somebody else can provide that kind of world. I'll just tag along. Why should I make myself suffer? Let someone else do the job." If everyone becomes that apathetic, the ideal world will just drift away. Can you let that happen? If you truly love your child, could you let him drift away in front of your eyes? As much as you love your children, you have to love this world. As mi.ch as you love your possessions, you have to love Heavenly Father! That's what Father has told us. You have to give yourself for the sake of the whole.
Promote the Whole
Many times Father sacrificed his family for the sake of this world. The first parents failed Heavenly Father by not uniting with His commandment. That commandment will be the basis of constructing the ideal world where everybody can live as one. The existence and unity of the whole is the transcending value of the ideal world. In that kind of ideal society, people will live together as one. Everyone will understand the existence of self, but will consciously promote the whole.
All the unique characters within that society will achieve their true value and experience joy only when they participate in the progress of the whole. For example, I love everybody in this room, so everybody, not just one person, loves me. So this is a kind of ideal society because I have a unifying theme which is telling me that I must live for the sake of the whole. I have that concept -- it is drilled into me. I made the decision to live like that. Everyone must have that kind of desire if we want a world of love.
The failure of Adam and Eve was that they thought only about themselves; they didn't think about God. The first parents were thinking: "Oh, it would be nice to be like God, to have His knowledge. I want to touch it; I want to feel it." They made that clear deci