Hyo Jin Moon February 11, 1989 Unofficial Notes from 9:00 am Speech
Today is a very special day. It is a day of judgment, commitment and a chance to re-address the vows that each one of us has made to True Parents.
As children facing parents you do not love according to your own need or your own schedule. When you live with children, every moment, each interaction with your child is valuable and immeasurable. It is an intense relationship. In order for us to truly rejoice this day, we have to face True Parents as true children, transcending every manmade, physical aspiration. To realize True Parenthood, we first have to be true children. Only because True Parents exist, is it possible to become a true child. Because of them we can participate in this life and enriching experience of love.
How many people here come from small towns? Which do you like better, small towns or big cities? Many of you say small towns, but actually many young people like big cities better, why? There are more opportunities in big cities. It is possible to get better jobs and to meet someone new. They are not satisfied with the social patterns of a small town. They do not like the values there so they go looking for something different.When you go to a big city there is a multitude of variety to choose from. Social and ethnic backgrounds are all different. There is a better chance of finding a social pattern or structure that you are comfortable with.
When you come to the city what are you looking for? Some of you said that you like small towns better, with more emphasis on family values, but many times young people are confused. They want to follow millionaires, politicians or people like Ivan Boesky, and that will not work in a small town. They want to break away, look for money, to do what they want.
Because of these opportunities existing in large cities it is difficult to bring people together. There are too many value systems and ideas of what is right and wrong. Americans say that this is a free world and that you can do what you want. They say you have a right to go for it and to make your own decisions. If you want to put emphasis on becoming powerful or making a million dollars, that is your right and your choice. With this thinking there is no criteria for making judgements between what is right and what is false. Anything is okay. A society based on that kind of 'freedom' will be difficult to unite and bring together.
So many times I have heard people say in times of difficulty, "You do not love me, but rather, you love some kind of concept within yourself of what you want me to become. You are not embracing the innate quality that I have, just something that you want out of me". I hear that argument often in a relationship. When you argue like that, emphasizing your own point of view, you will tend to get pushed into confrontation.
[At this point noise from children in the back of the room became distracting. Hyo Jin Nim spoke some words in Korean and asked the parents with crying babies to leave the room] You have to create an atmosphere here! You have to participate too! The preparation you make is very important.
In the society I was describing everybody is left to do whatever they want, as long as they do not hurt anyone. Basically you live to serve your own interests. As long as you do not take advantage of others, anything is possible. With this understanding, it is very difficult to have a true relationship. You would be a hypocrite. As men and women, we cannot avoid living with other people. How can you disregard that fact? If your value system puts total emphasis on yourself then principled relationships will be impossible, they would all be hypocritical. We would all be pretenders because in our deepest conscience we would only be looking out for ourselves. That is a pretentious society. People say that they care for humanity, but in their daily lives they do not do anything about it. They are working their butts off to support themselves even way beyond their needs, or even the capacity to enjoy. Belonging to this kind of society people cannot live together in harmony.
We all dream of a world where there is no chaos, only p